Alan Marx
September 29, 2014
Professor Young
English 1100
Essay 2
In
the town of Basking Ridge New Jersey there is an issue that I feel needs more
attention to be brought upon it. Basking Ridge is ranked number 5 on the on the
safest places to live website and we as a town very proud of that. But the area
that I am concerned with revolves around the schooling district. As we grow
older in our teen years we become an age where bullying becomes a factor in our
every day lives. In school when children are not around parental supervision
kids can become physically, or mentally abusive to each other, bullying in the
community of Basking Ridge has become an outgoing problem for many years, whether
its in the hallways or through technology I feel it is the time where the board
of education needs to step in and help.
Bullying is defined
as “unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a
real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the
potential to be repeated, over time. Bullying includes actions such as making
threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and
excluding someone from a group on purpose.” As shown in this definition it
doesn’t mention that bullying can only go on in a school, bullying can happen
anywhere. But I feel when kids or teens are in the early stage of their lives
bullying can be more effective. Things like depression, health complaints, and even
suicide are 3 possible words that could be tied to a child being bullied, and
these 3 things can may a parent sick forever.
The
town I live in, Basking Ridge, is a very beautiful place to live. It is full of
some of the wealthiest people from our state. If you drive around the area you
will notice these nice paved roads, big houses with the grass cut, people
running, all of these little things make me feel good to be able to come home to
each and every week. But growing up in this town from grades K-12 I witnessed
many forms of bullying in the schools that I attended.
Ever
since the rise of social media it has become easier for students to bully one
another outside of school. When you’re sitting in your room at home typing away
on either your computer or cell phone you can just watch a conversation turn
into a media frenzy in just seconds. There’s always a problem that can start
just by a few unkind words. Students will go back and forth calling each other
bad names until it has to become physical. The words “Fight me” always tend to
pop up under someone’s name and then the next thing you know, their standing 10
feet away from one another ready to brawl. Sides are always taken and usually
whoever wins is looked at as the bigger person and the one who looses is looked
at as the smaller person. Social media is on the rise in our current generation
and bullying tends to be rising with it.
In
the memoir Valerie Kinlochs memoir “Harlem art she shows how the place she
lives which is Harlem to be beautiful in its descriptive ways. I see a
connection between Basking Ridge and Harlem very much as they both are
beautiful towns. The only way to appreciate it is to stop and look around once
in a while and you can just see that after all of those years of war or Civil
rights, we now can live in a peaceful and well-respected Community where
everyone feels safe. “This art that makes up Harlem is not simply abut the
artifacts of art, but the people of Harlem themselves.” (Kinloch 150) Knowing
who surrounds you in your community can also help you appreciate where you
live. The people of your town help out everyday trying to make where you live a
better place, and I feel that that’s what Valerie Kinloch is trying to say in
her memoir.
Solving
this problem is hard to do, every year someone maybe a student or the principle
takes it upon themselves to have an assembly to aware us of why and how
bullying goes on in our school. Us being kids, we don’t really listen and take
in what is being said to us in these assemblies. Bullying like I said is more
than just in the school, which gives us responsibilities to say something to
someone when someone is being bullied outside of schools. Kids are sneaky and it’s
hard to keep up with a population of an entire school. Students usually will
not want to be the “tattle tail” because they may get bullied as well. I
believe that the board of education needs to create a separate coarse for
bullying in school. Students should learn of the causes and effects of this
social dilemma. I also believe that the consequences of bullying should be more
severe showing kids that if they do get caught bullying that they will never do
it again.
Bullying
is a big problem in Basking Ridge NJ. It is time that the students stand up and
say something. Watching a person get socially torn over the computer is not
something you should do nothing about. Tell a teacher, a parent, tell someone
about this. That person has feelings as well, and it is time that we as
bystanders are looked at as bigger people.
Works Cited
"What Is Bullying." Home.
N.p., n.d. Web. 05 Oct. 2014.
Kinloch, Valarie